Stage 4: A Guide to Empty FullnessBy Tchiki Davis, M.A., Ph.D.
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At a certain point, the answer becomes clear.
Finding no-self (awakening) and finding the self (self-development) are not separate processes. They only appear that way from within the dualistic perspective. Deeper enlightenment requires both awakening (no-self) and development (of self) to reach the point when they completely merge. Specifically, it requires what Buddhism calls the Arahant stage of awakening combined with the completion of the Unitive stage of ego development. This is when the flickering of insights that arise during awakening stabilize into an embodied, lived experience beyond both self and no-self. 
This article first explores how awakening manifests differently across the stages of ego/self development so that you can see why people's awakening experiences are so different. Then we explore why deep enlightenment requires both streams of self and no-self to converge.
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✓ Learn about the four stages between awakening & enlightenment ✓ Get exercises to progress Sign up below to get our FREE eBook. Ego Development Stages & EnlightenmentSusanne Cook-Greuter expanded on Jane Loevinger's ego development theory to map how adults construct meaning throughout their lives. Her model describes a progression from conventional to postconventional stages, each representing a qualitatively different way of making sense of reality. Although awakening can happen from any stage, we'll focus here on the stages that are closer to enlightenment: the Achiever (Stage 4), Individualist (Stage 4/5), Autonomous (Stage 5), Construct-Aware (Stage 5/6), and Unitive (Stage 6). Unitive Stage is when self and no-self begin to merge into a stable, interpenetrating phenomenon.
The Achiever stage At the Achiever stage, identity centers on accomplishments, roles, and social expectations. Success and competence define self-worth, and rules provide clear guidelines for navigating life. The Individualist stage The Individualist stage brings increased self-awareness and questioning of inherited beliefs. People at this stage recognize they are more than their roles and begin exploring their inner landscape with greater authenticity. The Autonomous stage The Autonomous stage introduces systems thinking and the capacity to hold multiple perspectives simultaneously. Individuals recognize that different contexts require different approaches and that principles matter more than rigid rules. They integrate shadow material and develop genuine empathy for complexity. The Construct-Aware stage The Construct-Aware stage represents a profound shift where the mind begins to recognize its own constructive activity. All concepts, including the self, are seen as mental fabrications rather than inherent realities. The Unitive stage Finally, the Unitive stage dissolves the subject-object duality entirely and permanently. There is no separate self observing experience (i.e., awareness or witness consciousness)—only the seamless flow of All That Is. This stage is relatively rare, with research suggesting only about 0.5% of adults reaching the Unitive stage. Read About Insights Into Stages of Development ✅ Grab my FREE eBook to learn more about self-development stages HERE. ✅ Namarupa Explained: Name & Form in Awakening ✅ Vinnana: How the Mind Divides Conceptual Reality ✅ The Law of One: 4th, 5th, and 6th Density Explained Ego Development Stages Comparison Table
Self and No-Self: The Nondual TruthIf awakening is the embodiment of no-self, then ego development is the embodiment of self. From a dualistic perspective, these appear contradictory and separate.
How can you simultaneously develop a self and realize there is no self? The confusion arises from viewing these processes through a dualistic lens that treats them as separate phenomena occurring in different domains. The Real Self In the end, these two processes are inseparable. 'Self' development and 'no-self' awakening only appear distinct because most people never reach the stages where their underlying nature becomes obvious. They were always the same process seen from two different perspectives. How It Works Awakening to no-self is available at any developmental stage. For example, countless practitioners have experienced profound glimpses of no-self while functioning at earlier levels of self-development. However, the nature of that awakening, how it is interpreted, how embodied or integrated it is, and how stable it becomes depends significantly on the developmental stage of the self that interprets it. Where No-Self-Realization & Self-Development Merge The intersection of self-development and awakening (i.e., no-self development) starts to become clear at the Construct-Aware stage. At this level, self-development involves recognizing that the self (and everything else) is a construct created by the mind. When you see clearly that "you" are a conceptual overlay rather than an inherent entity, something remarkable happens. The seeing itself may trigger a spontaneous awakening, even if you use no meditation practice or traditional spiritual methods. The mind recognizes its own fabricating activity so thoroughly that the spell of identification breaks. So, self-development (growing up) and awakening (waking up) appear separate to the vast majority of people who still view the world through duality (see Wilber for more). But this is only because they have not yet reached the developmental stage where the two streams (self & no-self) naturally merge. They view awakening as something that they must pursue through doing certain practices rather than as a developmental and evolutionary impulse that is already within every human being. Read About Insights Into The Merging of Self & No-Self ✅ Transitioning to Unitive Stage: What to Expect and How to Navigate ✅ The Paradox of Self in Awakening and Nonduality ✅ Collapsing the Self-Other Duality in Awakening ✅ What Frequency Holders Actually Do How Initial Awakening Manifests Across Developmental StagesBecause self and no-self are inseparable, initial awakening looks different across different stages of self development. The realization of no-self gets filtered through the meaning-making structure of the mind or self, producing qualitatively different experiences and interpretations.
You heard me right! Even 'no-self' is defined by the 'self'! The ego (or self) does not actually die in any of these stages. The ego is just seen through, to varying degrees, depending on where the self is in its development. *To learn more about the stages of self-development see Susanne Cook-Grueter's and Ken Wilber's research. The Achiever stage of self-development At the Achiever stage, awakening may be seen as "achieving" enlightenment or mastering a spiritual practice. The experience might feel like reaching a goal after dedicated effort. There is often pride in the accomplishment and a tendency to measure progress against external standards. The awakening may be genuine, but it gets interpreted through a self that still heavily identifies with being the doer of actions and the creator of outcomes. The Individualist stage Someone at the Individualist stage who awakens tends to interpret the experience through psychological and emotional frameworks. They may emphasize the uniqueness of their particular path and focus on how the awakening reveals their authentic self. They may also focus on understanding the self (e.g., Internal Family Systems Parts work). Of course, the focus on finding one's true self seems at odds with the realization of no-self, but this inconsistency is not yet reconized. The Autonomous stage At the Autonomous stage, awakening gets integrated into a sophisticated understanding of systems (e.g., people refer to causes & conditions). They may be skilled at articulating the experience using multiple frameworks and can easily hold the paradox of self and no-self. These are some of the best spiritual teachers precisely because there is still identification with 'knowing' or 'wisdom' and "helping" others to awaken. We are all playing our roles and they are all perfect. Being further along isn't better. However, in this stage there remains a conceptual overlay that suggests that subtle phenomena (like paradox or truth) are real and that specific practices are better or worse than others (the dualities of hierarchy, value, and truth are still in place). Even thought they may be excellent at witnessing beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and sensations, they can not yet see that their definitions (or concepts) are still creating tons of illusions. The Construct-Aware stage The Construct-Aware stage is where awakening and development begin to merge. Because the developmental work of this stage involves seeing through all constructs, not just the 'self' concept (e.g., all concepts, beliefs, thoughts, emotions, actions, etc...), self-development and no-self realization become the same process. The work of awakening and self-development are becoming One. In this stage, it is clear that all paths, practices, and actions will eventually lead to the same inevitable nondual ending because awakening has nothing to do with any of the beliefs (or concepts) that people attach to it. Awakening is not something that happens to someone; it is the evolutionary impulse within every human being. The Unitive stage At the Unitive stage, the distinction between awakening and development has completely dissolved. The mechanisms of the self have become so transparent that there's no experiential difference between self and no-self, form and emptiness, practice and non-practice, or everything and nothing. All conceptual dualities no longer seem distinct from their opposites. Action is the same as inaction. Belief is the same as doubt. Self is the same as no-self. The Self Awareness & 'No-Self' Awareness Process
*Researchers indicate that the witness get automatically activated in the construct aware stage. So self-development can initiate awakening.
Identity Deconstruction Varies Across StagesWhen first exploring awakening, it’s easy to assume that all teachers are saying the same thing. In reality, each of the stages of awakening in the enlightenment map are experienced differently depending on the stage of self-development that a 'self' is in. So teachers in different stages are actually pointing to different things.
The following table breaks down three developmental stages—4/5, 5, and 5/6—to highlight what aspect of the self is being deconstructed and what blind spots remain at each developmental stage. What Is Deconstructed and Not Yet Seen Across Developmental Stages
*Teachings can sound identical to listeners, even though the depth and focus of the insight differ.
Read About Unitive Stage: Dissolution of Meaning ✅ Why Enlightenment Frees You From Psychological Control ✅ The Illusion of Cause & Effect: A Nondual Perspective ✅ Non-Interference in Spiritual Awakening: A Nondual Perspective ✅ Beyond Paradox: What Awakening Reveals After Duality ✅ The Dissolution of Emotional Continuity After No-Self Realization Seeing Through The WitnessSeeing through the witness or spacious awareness, (which arises at the entry into Stage 3 of enlightenment), also looks different at different stages of self-development.
The following table illustrates how the sense of an “observer” "awareness", or "witness" changes and gradually dissolves across the stages of self development. Table 1. How the “Observer” (or Witness) Dissolves Across Developmental Stages
Nonduality Varies Across StagesNonduality, or the lived experience no-self (which arises in Stage 3 of enlightenment), is also defined differently at different stages of self-development. While the core recognition—that there is no independent, separate self—remains consistent, the way it is felt, interpreted, and integrated differs across developmental stages.
How Nonduality Is Understood Across Developmental Stages
Developmental Readiness for Awakening
Awakening at the Construct-Aware stage tends to be far easier, quicker, and more stable than awakenings at earlier stages because of the nature of the self-structure. A Note of Caution *The growing effort to awaken people without considering their developmental readiness is likely to lead to the creation of more cults, unethical awakening communities, and suffering in the years to come. 'No-Self' Practices Across Developmental Stages'No-self' is still an experience that is defined by it's opposite (self). It's still a duality. Thus, it too, is experienced differently in the different developmental stages.
The Achiever stage At the Achiever stage, practices are methods for achieving specific outcomes. Meditation is something you do to become enlightened, just as you might go to the gym to become fit. There is a strong sense of effort, doership, and striving, and practices that promise measurable results tend to be most appealing. The Individualist stage The Individualist stage brings a more exploratory approach to practice. Meditation becomes a tool for self-discovery and emotional processing. There is less emphasis on achieving particular states and more interest in what practices reveal about one's inner landscape. The practice becomes personalized and may be modified based on individual preferences and insights. The Autonomous stage At the Autonomous stage, practices are understood as contextual tools serving different purposes. The same person might use concentration meditation for stabilizing attention, inquiry practices for investigating the nature of mind, and somatic work for releasing stored trauma. Practice is integrated with psychological understanding and relational work. There is skill in matching methods to contexts. The Construct-Aware stage The Construct-Aware stage reveals practices themselves as symbolic tools and conceptual frameworks (e.g., you understand the concept of permission slips). Meditation is not intrinsically sacred (or even intrinsically useful). It is an activity of All that is that may or may not lead to awakening. It's effectiveness lies in the beliefs attached to it—not the practice itself. At this stage, practice can be any activity one chooses. How No-Self Is Experienced Across Developmental StagesThe self can continue to subtly shape both the experience and interpretation of no-self, even after early insights into its absence.
Inner Work Through Developmental LensesInner work—the process of integrating disowned or unconscious aspects of the psyche—also manifests differently depending on the developmental stage.
The Achiever stage At the Achiever level, shadow work may focus on addressing specific weaknesses or obstacles to success. Anger might be seen as something to control or eliminate because it interferes with effectiveness. The approach tends to be problem-focused and solution-oriented. The Individualist stage The Individualist stage brings deeper engagement with shadow material. There is genuine curiosity about what lies beneath the surface and willingness to explore difficult emotions and hidden aspects of identity. Shadow work becomes part of the journey toward authenticity and self-understanding. The person may spend considerable time doing practices that surface unconscious content. The Autonomous stage At the Autonomous stage, shadow work is integrated with systems thinking and relational awareness. The person recognizes how their own unconscious patterns affect others and takes responsibility for those impacts. Shadow integration happens through empathy, dialogue, and recognizing how different parts of the psyche serve different functions. There is less judgment about shadow material and more interest in understanding its origins and purposes. The Construct-Aware stage The Construct-Aware stage introduces a radically different relationship to shadow work. While psychological integration continues, there is recognition that even the "shadow" is a construct. Difficult emotions and impulses are seen as impersonal energetic patterns arising within awareness rather than as personal failings requiring correction. This does not mean bypassing legitimate psychological work, but it changes the fundamental relationship to what arises. Fetter Dissolution Across Late Developmental StagesBecause we view the world differently at each stage, the way our awakening progresses also looks different in each stage. This is how different fetters falling away may be experienced differently in the different developmental stages.
The Key To Enlightenment: Construct-AwarenessThe key to full enlightenment is seeing that constructs are not to be solid, separate, real things. Our definitions constantly change and every person defines a concept differently. No solid, inherent conceptual reality actually exists.
The Convergence: Moving Towards Full EnlightenmentThis brings us to a crucial point that resolves apparent contradictions in contemplative literature. Full enlightenment requires both awakening and development to reach their completion, or the point at which it becomes clear that they are not separate.
Why We Need Both Self & No-Self Awareness Because awakening at earlier developmental stages still interprets emptiness through remaining self-structures. Someone who awakens at the Achiever stage experiences genuine insight into no-self, but that insight gets filtered through achievement-oriented meaning-making. The person may claim full enlightenment while still operating from unexamined assumptions about meaning, hierarchy, and persepctive. Similarly, awakening at the Individualist or Autonomous stages involves genuine realization, but that insight gets filtered through perspective-oriented or systems-oriented meaning-making. The self structure has not yet recognized its own constructive (or meaning-making) activity thoroughly enough for conceptual reality to fully collapse. The Real Door to Enlightenment At the Construct-Aware stage, development itself becomes the recognition that all constructs—not just the self—are mental fabrications. This is not merely an intellectual understanding but a lived reality where the mind (or witness) is now observing the very act of itself constructing reality. It becomes clear that the conceptual self = the conceptual no-self. Although no-self at early stages can feel like the opposite of the thought-based self or the belief-based self, at construct aware, the duality between self and no-self begins to break down. Self and no-self never existed as separate experiences. Self = No-Self This is where the path of self and the path of no-self reveal themselves to have always been one path.
The reason people think awakening and development are separate is because they have not reached the permanent nondual place (unitive stage) where all dualities stop making sense. Development as Awakening TriggerAwakening can be triggered by countless factors—meditation, psychedelics, trauma, grace, or spontaneous shifts—and can arise at any stage of development. However, awakening arises spontaneously when someone enters into the Construct-Aware stage.
At this developmental threshold, the person begins seeing that everything they took to be inherently real is actually constructed by the mind. Roles, identities, beliefs, self, time, space, separation, and every single aspects of reality are recognized as conceptual overlays rather than ontological facts. Sounds a lot like awakening, doesn't it?! Efficient Awakening This is why awakening at the Construct-Aware stage tends to be more efficient and stable than awakening at earlier stages. There is less self-structure remaining to co-opt the insight or create new, more subtle forms of identification. The person is not trying to become enlightened because they see clearly that there is no one to become enlightened. Enlightenment isn't even a real thing. It's literally all concept. Awakening From Earlier Self-Development Stages Awakening at earlier stages can be far more challenging precisely because substantial self-structure remains intact. The person has a genuine insight into no-self, but then...
These are not wrong impulses (the are unavoidable and fine just as they are), but they can create confusion, traps, and misinterpretations as the person tries to reconcile profound realization of no-self with the remaining but hidden impulses of a self. How Teachers May Speak About No-Self Across Developmental Stages
*In stage 6, 6/7, and 7, teaching doesn't really make sense anymore. So teaching, as a method for creating understanding, doesn't really arise anymore.
Living in The Balance of Self = No-Self (6D or Unitive Stage)What does it look like to live from the integration of no-self AND advanced self-development? This is not a state of permanent bliss (bliss isn't even a "real" experience at this stage). Rather, it is clear seeing that is not confused by the illusions of duality.
The Maturation of Self & No-Self Such a person relates to others with genuine openness because there are increasingly fewer illusions about either self or no-self. The 'ultimate' truth is seen and experienced as just as valid as 'relative' truth. Thus, one holds the paradox of self and no-self in such a way as to dissolve the paradox entirely. Importantly, this integration (which is sometimes called balancing of dualities) does not make someone superhuman or infallible. Most habits, conditioning, and preferences continue.
Deepening of Conceptual Nonduality: The Dissolution of Mental Mechanisms (Stage 6/7)Even after thoughts, beliefs, and concepts fall away, there remain the mechanisms (sanskaras) that made these mental processes seem real in the first place. These psychological functions are still mind-based and not actually inherent to All That Is.
Deep in awakneing, the following mechanisms eventually go offline.
The Perpetual Present and Narrative Collapse Ultimately, there is a complete dissolution of the narrative self, the structure that links the past to the future to create a coherent "life story" over time.
By this point, none of these are practices or states. This is not happening in mediation. These are permanent self-dissolution processes that happen in one's daily life. For example, the sense of space, time, and the experience of a self living across time are gone permanently. Read About The Collapse Into Nothingness ✅ Self-Dissolution: Loss of the Self-Tracker & Ghost Experiences ✅ Beyond Time And Space: Integrating Nondual Awareness ✅ Beyond Self-Monitoring: When the Self Stops Watching Itself ✅ Beyond Questions and Answers: Insights from Deep Awakening ✅ The Dissolution of the Narrative Self: Beyond Continuity ✅ Beyond Understanding: When There Is Nothing Left to Know ✅ When the Default Mode Network Goes Offline ✅ Bhava Tanha: Clinging to Existence in Deep Awakening All That IsAs somatic clearing continues, one may go in and out of consciousness, experiencing what feel like gaps of just a few milliseconds in time (or blackouts when the witness is not present). Without consciousness, there is no awareness, no beliefs, no thoughts, no nothing. But sometimes there is there a flash of light or a sound that marks the gap. There is no awareness in non-existence, but you can sometimes see the flicker of when "the light" it goes on and off.
After a blackout, consciousness has to reboot. For a moment, you don't know where or when you are, and there is no mental material in awareness (like thoughts) to orient you. When consciousness and the mind return, it tells you that there was nothing there. Indeed, from the witness perspective, it feels like nothing happened, because the very mechanism that witnesses experience was absent. Right before and after the gaps is extremely peaceful. The entire contraction of consciousness, of existence, collapses temporarily. But when thoughts start up again, the self can be frantic. It's entire reality can just flick off like a light switch at any moment. Beyond Consciousness As these gaps become more stable and frequent, functioning no longer depends on rebooting the witness after each blackout. Disorientation fades as existence begins to accept that it is not permanent. It is seen clearly that conscsiouness, itself, is nothing more than an arising that can fall away (and does fall away) in a moment. Read About Living In All That Is ✅ The Experience of No-Self Book ✅ Becoming a Spiritual Lighthouse in Deep Awakening ✅ Living Beyond Concepts: What Deep Awakening Really Does ✅ The Contraction of Separation: A Nondual Perspective Final Thoughts on Full EnlightenmentSo what is full enlightenment? The complete end to this journey is non-existence or nothingness. Existence, itself, is a contraction of nothingness into an apparent form. That's what we really are. So as long as we exist, we are in duality. And as long as we are in any apparent form, we experience separation in some ways.
What Is Enlightenment Anyway? Some of the experiences of self (the knowing, seeking, identifying, avoiding, thinking, and more) do stop for some people. That often brings more peace because these are difficult energies. But whether these experiences stop or not really has nothing to do with anything.
Are all of these people enlightened? Are none of them? In the end, the idea of 'enlightenment' doesn't really point to anything and it really doesn't matter. |
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